A: If possible, meet with the individual regularly. Consistent accountability and encouragement are important in the recovery process. Remember that abstinence from the behavior does not necessarily constitute recovery and healing. Recovery is about a lifestyle change and usually requires long term accountability well after the last incident of acting out. Individuals struggling with pornography and sexual addiction often underestimate the seriousness of the problem and may cut themselves off from getting the help and healing they need for full recovery. While spiritual healing is important, emotional, psychological, and neurological healing must also take place. Encourage participants to (1) be transparent in disclosing behavior to their spouse and ecclesiastical leader, (2) become educated, (3) set boundaries, (4) get therapy and (5) attend appropriate 12-Step meetings. Take the time to learn about all of these actions and what is required.
A: Pornography addiction often has devastating effects for the spouse of the addict. It is common for spouses to have significant trauma, yet fail to get adequate or appropriate help, support and counseling. Recognize and watch for serious potential side effects such as depression, eating disorders or thoughts of suicide. It is also common for the spouses of addicts to start questioning their faith in God as they struggle to understand why he would allow this to happen. Listen and validate the spouse’s feelings. Become educated regarding the effect an addict’s pornography addiction can have on their spouse. Strongly encourage participants to (1) continue seeking support from trusted individuals, (2) become educated, (3) set boundaries and practice self-care, (4) get therapy and (5) attend appropriate 12-Step meetings. Take the time to learn about all of these actions and what is required.
A: LDS Hope and Recovery provides materials and resources and at a discount to aid you in supporting your wards and stakes. Counseling is also offered at a discount if ward and stake funds are being used to help an individual, or family. We recommend that you require the client participate financially in the process depending on their ability. If you and your ward / stake member consent, the counselors at LDS Hope and Recovery will keep you updated on their progress. Please feel free to contact us if with any questions or concerns.