Hazards of viewing and using Pornography
Pornography use has the potential to cause the following problems:
There are many hazards to an individual when viewing or using pornography. These hazards can have great impact on the lives of the person viewing, their spouse, and their family members. Pornography is not a victim-less crime. LDS Hope and Recovery can help you by providing online counseling and education for those that struggle with pornography and sexual addiction.
SOCIAL ISOLATION
- Withdrawing from social activity
- Developing a secret life
- Lying to and deceiving others
- Becoming self-centered
- Choosing porn over people
MOOD DISORDERS
- Feeling irritable and defensive
- Feeling angry and depressed
- Experiencing mood swings
- Pervasive anxiety and fearfulness
- Feeling powerless in relation to porn
SEXUALLY OBJECTIFYING OTHER PEOPLE
- Treating people as sexual objects
- Judging people primarily in terms of their sexual body parts
- Disrespecting other peoples’ needs for privacy and safety
- Being insensitive about sexually harmful behavior
ENGAGING IN RISKY AND DANGEROUS BEHAVIOR
- Accessing porn at work or school
- Accessing child porn
- Participating in degrading, abusive, violent, or criminal sexual activity
- Producing, distributing, or selling porn
- Engaging in physically unsafe and harmful sex
UNHAPPY INTIMATE PARTNER
- Relationship is marred by dishonesty and deception about porn use
- Partner views porn use as sexual infidelity, ie.“cheating”
- Partner is increasingly upset and angry
- Partner is concerned about the welfare of the children
- Partner feels sexually inadequate and threatened by the porn
- Relationship deteriorates due to lack of trust and respect
- Loss of emotional closeness and mutual sexual enjoyment
SEXUAL PROBLEMS
- Loss of interest in sex with a real partner
- Difficulty becoming aroused and/or achieving orgasm without porn
- Intrusive thoughts, fantasies, and images of porn during sex
- Becoming sexually demanding and/or rough in sex
- Having difficulty connecting love and caring with sex
- Feeling sexually out of control and compulsive
- Increased interest in risky, degrading, abusive, and/ or illegal sex
- Growing dissatisfaction with sex
SELF-LOATHING
- Feeling disconnected from personal values, beliefs, and goals
- Loss of personal integrity
- Damaged self-esteem
- Persistent feelings of guilt and shame
- Feeling controlled by porn
NEGLECTING IMPORTANT AREAS OF LIFE
- Personal health (sleep deprivation, exhaustion, and poor self-care)
- Family life (neglecting spouse, children, and household responsibilities)
- Work & school pursuits (reduced focus, productivity, and advancement)
- Finances (spending on porn depletes resources)
- Spirituality (alienation from faith and spiritual practice)
ADDICTION TO PORN
- Craving porn intensely and persistently
- Difficulty controlling thoughts of, exposure to, and use of porn
- Inability to discontinue porn use despite negative consequences
- Repeated failures to stop using porn
- Requiring more extreme content or intense exposures to porn to get the same effect (habituation symptoms)
- Experiencing discomfort and irritability when deprived of porn (withdrawal symptoms)
© 2008, Wendy Maltz & Larry Maltz, adapted from The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused By Pornography. www.HealthySex.com (Poster #2)